Lesson Learned. This phrase, to me, pretty much sums up your 20’s. Lessons like finally learning that drinking 4 lemon drop martinis and adding 2 rounds of shots after that, will never go well. Or that if you spend all your month’s pay on clothes and mannnyyyy Happy Hours, paying rent is going to be a gamble… and living in an apartment is kind of important.
The most frustrating part is a lot of the lessons I’ve learned in my 20’s, are things I wish I had realized when I was younger. I think about how different my high school and college experience would have been. Not that I have regrets, because I wouldn’t be where I am today if I had rewritten my past. But if I could instill some wisdom is young Tori, it would have been a long list.
However, I will share 3 lessons I’ve learned with you all. I think these 3 have been lessons I have held onto the most lately.
- Be confident with who you are. Growing up, it’s a constant worry about being different or looking different. We hold onto a world where being different is bad. I wish we didn’t grow up like that. It’s something we all have to learn as we grow up and everyone goes through it. But then you grow up. You’re in your 20’s and realize how lame it is to be like everyone else. I am learning to embrace what makes me different rather than hide it all the time. I love being a little weird and having a weird Harry Potter obsession. I love that American Idol makes me tear up. Be confident in what makes you unique, because life is way more fun when you do!
- It’s okay to open up. There are a lot of people in this world that have no problem opening up and I praise you for that. I wish I was better at it. I have always had a hard time opening up to people. I am not good at asking questions or answering questions. I always feel like I am prying when I ask people too many questions about themselves and I am not one to be the center of attention, so I am not big on talking about myself. As I am getting older, I am realizing how important it is to open up and get to know those around me. The more I do, the more I realize how much I have in common with people.
- Life doesn’t go the way you planned. I am such a planner in the choices I make. I like things for things to align and go the way I planned. I like to know what to expect and the unexpected is scary. This lesson has been the biggest one for me the past 2 months. I am living a life that is WAY different then I had planned. I am hit with the reality that life is even messier and crazier than I had though growing up. And if we focus too much on what we thought the plan was, we lose out on what life has planned for us. Life isn’t working against us and even when it feels like life is kicking the crap out of you… life has it’s own plan. It’s a lesson I am still learning, but it’s one of the most important ones.
What important lessons have you learned?
On a different note, looks like Spring is finally here in the mountains! Snow is melting and I’m enjoying the warmer weather and beautiful sunshine. There’s nothing like enjoying Spring in the mountains. What’s your favorite thing to do in the Spring?
As always, thanks for reading!
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